I have the tendency to make up stories about what is going on in the minds of others while we are having conversations. Of course I would always choose the worst story possibly rather than trying to find a real solution to the problem. I would tell myself that they just didn't like me or something to that extent. It would make it difficult because then I would get more hurt than necessary. Once I learned how to master my stories, I had much better conversations. I also had to learn to start with the heart. I learned that I needed to decide what I wanted to get out of the conversation and to not alter the conversation for other needs once it had already started. This was especially difficult because I needed to learn how to keep myself from changing the conversation just because of the emotion going on.
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